After the Storm Comes the Rainbow

About 5 weeks ago we got to see those 2 pink lines.  Last week we got to see our little jumping bean.  That's right, we are prayerfully expecting a baby in January.  I have to say that I feel better emotionally this time around.  I occasionally begin to let those thoughts come through but I remind myself it is out of my control.  Prayer has to be constant.  Trust has to be constant.  I do not know how couples can go through the loss of children without faith and trust in a loving God.  God didn't allow us to go through this as a punishment but to draw us closer to him.  We often think about God as this punishing father.  The truth is, he is crazy about you.  He wants success for you and wants you to be happy but just like every parent he will not make bad things go away.  We have to go through these things to learn from them.  I am much more calm this time around, not because of my strength but because I trust God's plan.  We have been through terrible loss and He got us through.  I trust his plan.  I know tomorrow isn't promised.  I am thankful the Lord has given this blessing to us.  So, for those of you who are going through this trial here are some things that I have learned and a few pieces of advice.

• Pray without ceasing.  Even when you don't feel like it. Pray.
• Take time to heal.  I personally was not mentally ready to be pregnant again the second time. I was far from myself after that loss.
• Read "Expecting With Hope" during your next pregnancy.
• Surround yourself with positivity. Your baby needs a happy place to grow and thrive.
• Stop Googling every little thing.  Soon as I stopped going crazy on Google my outlook was much more positive.  
• Find a support group for families experiencing early loss.  I am so glad I went to my group the week after Natalie's death.  These women have gone though it.  It is different than a grief group because their losses are very similar to yours.  You will grown and then be able to help others who are new to the group.  Helping others through loss has been healing to me.
• Turn to the Bible.  You will find comforting words and verses and people experiencing loss and trials.  I have verses that play over and over in my head when I am in need of comfort.
• Know that you will get through this and you will see your babies one day if you believe Jesus came to this Earth and died for your sins.  My prayer is that you will have healthy and happy pregnancy.